So, I'm officially on the dating bandwagon. Meaning I will go out with most people asking me (I would have said any, but... that's just not gonna happen!) And I ask a lot of people out. It is fun. This way you meet people you would never, ever, meet otherwise.
Take for example the date of yesterday. Let's call him Cookies. Now Cookies very spontaneously asked me over the chat if I would go out dancing with him, that very same night, i.e. about
Plus: fucking hot! Seriously. One of the hottest guys I've ever seen. Ever. Dude has tattoos and piercings everywhere. Omnomnom!
Works as a body builder and model - tall, gorgeous body.
I have never met anyone ever that has as much in common as me pop-reference-wise; books, music, movies, you name it! Several times we made the same reference (me:"look at that guys pants!" him: " Yeah like Olivia Newton John in Grease. They probably had to sew him in too". Which was what I was going to say!
Is awesome at compliments!
Brings out the fun giggly girl inside of me whilst still allowing for the rather sharp-tongued one.
Excellent kisser (ahem), good chemistry!
Send super sweet messages
At times would just stop talking and look at me in an enamored way and when prompted why he fell silent would answer "nothing. I'm just surprised at how much we have in common. This is a bit uncanny" Sweet!
Doesn't drink, doesn't use drugs. Smokes every once in a while but is willing (i.e. spontaneously said) to not do so as long as I'm around.
Is really not a boring person! Big plus compared to the earlier ones I've been out with lately!
Minus: bad, bad history. As in: been in jail and used to sell drugs for a living. This disturbs me a lot.
Has a dog (I have a cat. Not good match)
He just got out of a rather serious relationsship. I don't want to be Rebound Girl! We'll see how it all pans out. Oh, and the ex is a stripper.
He's a body builder, meaning he eats no carbs. Oh life without carbs! I could not do that. And I coulnd't cook for dude either as I'm rather bad at not eating carbs.
I think I'll just wait and see if he gets in contact again. If he does, and wants to go out, I'll probably agree to it! Since, omg he is super hot! And actually the first in this date-a-long that I've wanted to see for a second date.
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Sunday, January 31, 2010
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Clover's Guide to Dating Success
Following Agnes's (datethisbitch) lead, I'm posting my list of dating tips that I've gathered throughout my dating life. Please do not make the same mistakes I did. You will be a much happier dater because of it!
1. If your date wants to take you to his favorite movie of all time, and his favorite movie of all time is a superhero movie, and you don't like superhero movies, suggest an alternative date. Or, come up with something positive to say about the movie so you don't stand there like an idiot trying to say something better than, "It was really long."
2. Don't go on a first date with a guy you met in the comments section of a blog focused on celebrity gossip, relationship advice, and fashion.
3. 5"8 on an online profile doesn't always mean 5"8. Sometimes it means 5"6, or 5"4.
4. If you end up sleeping over at your date's house, in his bed, without even kissing, something weird is going on. Either find out what it is, or end it.
5. Your first date's annoying voice and awful smelling cologne will only be even more abrasive and stinky on the second date. So if you are put off by the sound of his voice or his scent, don't go on a second date.
6. If your date tells you he's a virgin and likes anal play, don't make out with him.
7. If you do use your blackberry on the first date, be sure and tell your date that you're giving your huge, beefy, tough coworker your date's license plate number just in case you go missing. Then smile sweetly.
8. From my roommate: If during your first date your date shows you scantily clad photos of his sisters and talks about how great you'd look pregnant you need to change your phone number right away because he's going to call you 100 times the next day.
9. Don't ever, under any circumstance, give your date career advice. This will instantly move you from the "potential lover" category to the "free life coach" category.
10. If you're on a date at a Chinese restaurant and you can tell that your date is much more interested in you than you are in him and your fortune cookie says "happiness is right in front of you" assume that it is referring to the river in the photograph on the wall and do your best to keep your date from asking you what it says.
11. Remember all the best details so you can blog about it later.
1. If your date wants to take you to his favorite movie of all time, and his favorite movie of all time is a superhero movie, and you don't like superhero movies, suggest an alternative date. Or, come up with something positive to say about the movie so you don't stand there like an idiot trying to say something better than, "It was really long."
2. Don't go on a first date with a guy you met in the comments section of a blog focused on celebrity gossip, relationship advice, and fashion.
3. 5"8 on an online profile doesn't always mean 5"8. Sometimes it means 5"6, or 5"4.
4. If you end up sleeping over at your date's house, in his bed, without even kissing, something weird is going on. Either find out what it is, or end it.
5. Your first date's annoying voice and awful smelling cologne will only be even more abrasive and stinky on the second date. So if you are put off by the sound of his voice or his scent, don't go on a second date.
6. If your date tells you he's a virgin and likes anal play, don't make out with him.
7. If you do use your blackberry on the first date, be sure and tell your date that you're giving your huge, beefy, tough coworker your date's license plate number just in case you go missing. Then smile sweetly.
8. From my roommate: If during your first date your date shows you scantily clad photos of his sisters and talks about how great you'd look pregnant you need to change your phone number right away because he's going to call you 100 times the next day.
9. Don't ever, under any circumstance, give your date career advice. This will instantly move you from the "potential lover" category to the "free life coach" category.
10. If you're on a date at a Chinese restaurant and you can tell that your date is much more interested in you than you are in him and your fortune cookie says "happiness is right in front of you" assume that it is referring to the river in the photograph on the wall and do your best to keep your date from asking you what it says.
11. Remember all the best details so you can blog about it later.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Date Recap(s)
Wow. Let me catch up. This week has been kind of a whirlwind. I have been on... 2-3 dates with The Astrophysicist since our first date, depending on what you consider a date. And wow.
He emailed me the day after our first date, just to say that he enjoyed meeting me and would like to get together again sometime soon. I agreed and we email-chatted back and forth and set up a second date for this past Wednesday.
Date 2 with The Astrophysicist
The Setting: A coffee shop, followed by a funk band at a venue across the street.
I texted him when I got off work and we agreed to meet at 7:30 at the coffee shop. While I was driving over, he called to say that he had already gotten there, and it closed at 7 during the week. WTF? So we changed plans slightly to meet at a nearby bakery that is 24 hours. We met and both got a coffee and I got a salted caramel brownie (yum) and sat down at a table to chat for awhile. We got into a little deeper conversation than our first date- religious beliefs (he's an atheist, I'm agnostic), plans for school/career, family, more nerdiness. A couple of coffee refills later, he checks the time to see when we need to leave for the show. It's 10:36. The show started at 10:30. Had it really been 3 hours already?
So we weigh our options: Going back down the street to see the band, which both of us agreed sounded fun but neither of us had ever heard this band before. Or, I brought up the suggestion of watching a movie I told him about that he hadn't seen (The Aristocrats.) We decide on the latter. I had kind of hoped to go to his house, because my roommate was home and I DEFINITELY had not planned on company and had not cleaned at all. But I own the movie, and neither of us knew where any rental places were near his apartment, so off to my house we go around 11. (I texted my roommate on the way to give him the heads up, luckily he was already in bed.)
So we watched the movie. And drank a little- not much, only a little. And watched a couple of videos on YouTube. And talked. And talked. And talked. You guys, he did not leave until 4 in the morning. And it didn't even feel like 4 in the morning. And we kissed when I walked him out to his car, and then he texted me when he got home to tell me goodnight. =)
Date 2: Mega Success!
Date 3 with The Astrophysicist
The Setting: A (different) coffee shop, an art museum downtown, burritos for lunch
Astrophysicist texted me Thursday night to ask if I wanted to hang out Friday. I didn't work until 6, so we had the whole day. He suggested an art museum, and I agreed, so he said he would call me when he woke up the next day and we would go from there.
He called around 10 am, and we planned for him to come pick me up and go to a coffee shop near me to wake up with some caffeine. We hung out in the coffee shop for about an hour, then headed back to my house so we could park and take the train uptown. It was freakin' freezing, Mr. Bigglesworth, and we hugged for warmth while we waited 7 minutes on the train. Then we walked a freezing 3 blocks to the museum.
The museum. Was so. Much. Fun. By this time, we were so strangely comfortable around each other. I really felt like I had been on way more than 3 dates with him. We spent an equal amount of time admiring and discussing the art seriously, and making ridiculous jokes and giggling like 12-year-olds. A moment that still makes me laugh is when I was standing looking at a painting, and he came up behind me and said in my ear, "It looks like a spork." And it did. And then I tried to hold in my laughter so they wouldn't throw us out.
We stayed at the museum for a good 2-3 hours, and then decided we were starving. So we took the train back to my neighborhood and went to a nearby burrito restaurant. We did not get burritos, but quesadillas, and chatted about the museum while we ate. We then took the short walk back to my house, and just kind of... hung out. Lounged on the couch and talked and did nothing.And made out. Finally it was time for me to go to work, so he dropped me off on his way home.
Date 3: =)
Date 3.5 with The Astrophysicist
The Setting: His house
After work on the same day as the museum, I had only been home about 20 minutes when he texted me and asked me if I wanted him to come pick me up too, so I wouldn't have to walk home from the train in the cold. =) I said I was already home, but asked what he was doing then. He was just hanging out at home reading blogs. I asked if he wanted some company, and he said sure, so I went over there.
Our evening pretty much consisted of reading
ThisIsWhyYou'reFat.com, showing each other funny YouTube videos, and drinking hard cider. We did spend a good amount of time making out as well, but decided to take things slow, so nothing past First Base. Before we knew it, it was almost 3 in the morning. He asked if I was tired, and gentlemanly offered me the couch, but also said I could join him if I wanted. I joined him and we went to sleep. Fully clothed, no hanky-panky, just spooning.
Date 3.5: I'm A Little Giddy
So, in conclusion, I may have to drop out of the Ten Dates Challenge, because while we have not formally discussed any kind of relationship or commitment, I am smitten and do not want to date anyone else at this time. He starts the new semester at school tomorrow, and my time with him will significantly drop off, but I am not interested in dates with other people, and I'm not sure it's in the spirit of the Ten Dates Challenge and this blog to continually gush about the boy I found.
He emailed me the day after our first date, just to say that he enjoyed meeting me and would like to get together again sometime soon. I agreed and we email-chatted back and forth and set up a second date for this past Wednesday.
Date 2 with The Astrophysicist
The Setting: A coffee shop, followed by a funk band at a venue across the street.
I texted him when I got off work and we agreed to meet at 7:30 at the coffee shop. While I was driving over, he called to say that he had already gotten there, and it closed at 7 during the week. WTF? So we changed plans slightly to meet at a nearby bakery that is 24 hours. We met and both got a coffee and I got a salted caramel brownie (yum) and sat down at a table to chat for awhile. We got into a little deeper conversation than our first date- religious beliefs (he's an atheist, I'm agnostic), plans for school/career, family, more nerdiness. A couple of coffee refills later, he checks the time to see when we need to leave for the show. It's 10:36. The show started at 10:30. Had it really been 3 hours already?
So we weigh our options: Going back down the street to see the band, which both of us agreed sounded fun but neither of us had ever heard this band before. Or, I brought up the suggestion of watching a movie I told him about that he hadn't seen (The Aristocrats.) We decide on the latter. I had kind of hoped to go to his house, because my roommate was home and I DEFINITELY had not planned on company and had not cleaned at all. But I own the movie, and neither of us knew where any rental places were near his apartment, so off to my house we go around 11. (I texted my roommate on the way to give him the heads up, luckily he was already in bed.)
So we watched the movie. And drank a little- not much, only a little. And watched a couple of videos on YouTube. And talked. And talked. And talked. You guys, he did not leave until 4 in the morning. And it didn't even feel like 4 in the morning. And we kissed when I walked him out to his car, and then he texted me when he got home to tell me goodnight. =)
Date 2: Mega Success!
Date 3 with The Astrophysicist
The Setting: A (different) coffee shop, an art museum downtown, burritos for lunch
Astrophysicist texted me Thursday night to ask if I wanted to hang out Friday. I didn't work until 6, so we had the whole day. He suggested an art museum, and I agreed, so he said he would call me when he woke up the next day and we would go from there.
He called around 10 am, and we planned for him to come pick me up and go to a coffee shop near me to wake up with some caffeine. We hung out in the coffee shop for about an hour, then headed back to my house so we could park and take the train uptown. It was freakin' freezing, Mr. Bigglesworth, and we hugged for warmth while we waited 7 minutes on the train. Then we walked a freezing 3 blocks to the museum.
The museum. Was so. Much. Fun. By this time, we were so strangely comfortable around each other. I really felt like I had been on way more than 3 dates with him. We spent an equal amount of time admiring and discussing the art seriously, and making ridiculous jokes and giggling like 12-year-olds. A moment that still makes me laugh is when I was standing looking at a painting, and he came up behind me and said in my ear, "It looks like a spork." And it did. And then I tried to hold in my laughter so they wouldn't throw us out.
We stayed at the museum for a good 2-3 hours, and then decided we were starving. So we took the train back to my neighborhood and went to a nearby burrito restaurant. We did not get burritos, but quesadillas, and chatted about the museum while we ate. We then took the short walk back to my house, and just kind of... hung out. Lounged on the couch and talked and did nothing.
Date 3: =)
Date 3.5 with The Astrophysicist
The Setting: His house
After work on the same day as the museum, I had only been home about 20 minutes when he texted me and asked me if I wanted him to come pick me up too, so I wouldn't have to walk home from the train in the cold. =) I said I was already home, but asked what he was doing then. He was just hanging out at home reading blogs. I asked if he wanted some company, and he said sure, so I went over there.
Our evening pretty much consisted of reading
ThisIsWhyYou'reFat.com, showing each other funny YouTube videos, and drinking hard cider. We did spend a good amount of time making out as well, but decided to take things slow, so nothing past First Base. Before we knew it, it was almost 3 in the morning. He asked if I was tired, and gentlemanly offered me the couch, but also said I could join him if I wanted. I joined him and we went to sleep. Fully clothed, no hanky-panky, just spooning.
Date 3.5: I'm A Little Giddy
So, in conclusion, I may have to drop out of the Ten Dates Challenge, because while we have not formally discussed any kind of relationship or commitment, I am smitten and do not want to date anyone else at this time. He starts the new semester at school tomorrow, and my time with him will significantly drop off, but I am not interested in dates with other people, and I'm not sure it's in the spirit of the Ten Dates Challenge and this blog to continually gush about the boy I found.
Clover's Date #3 - Striking Dating Gold
Yesterday I had my second date with the very sexy Brown Eyes. It was like winning the dating jackpot or striking gold in the dating mines. We saw a movie that we both enjoyed, followed by drinks and conversation at a bar, and then more conversation and kissing at his place.
It's been...well, I'll just say it's been too long since I've engaged in that much kissing, but apparently I'm not too rusty because Brown Eyes mentioned a couple times that I'm good at it. His style was a little different than I'm used to (used to? Does one get "used to" a kissing style?) but still very enjoyable. And I've had some bad kissing in my day. There was one particular individual who kissed with his lips very flaccid and suction like. It took me a while after that to actually convince myself that kissing can be pleasurable.
I invite you to share your worst kissing experience in the comments.
My usual M.O. is to do a little more than kissing. Ahem. But Brown Eyes wants to take it slowly and I'm happy to go along with that. It means there's more to look forward to...perhaps next weekend?
It's been...well, I'll just say it's been too long since I've engaged in that much kissing, but apparently I'm not too rusty because Brown Eyes mentioned a couple times that I'm good at it. His style was a little different than I'm used to (used to? Does one get "used to" a kissing style?) but still very enjoyable. And I've had some bad kissing in my day. There was one particular individual who kissed with his lips very flaccid and suction like. It took me a while after that to actually convince myself that kissing can be pleasurable.
I invite you to share your worst kissing experience in the comments.
My usual M.O. is to do a little more than kissing. Ahem. But Brown Eyes wants to take it slowly and I'm happy to go along with that. It means there's more to look forward to...perhaps next weekend?
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